
Over the last several years I've noticed a sobering trend as the wintertime ends. It seems many elders hang on until the very end of the season and over the course of a few weeks, one by one, the news comes that someone else in Sitka has passed on. This year has been no exception. It prompts me to write about how death in the Tlingit family is handled.
Keep in mind, there are many variations on what is done when a death occurs. Briefly, Tlingit are a matrilineal society meaning we follow our mothers bloodline. There are two clans, the Raven and the Eagle. My mother is Raven and so I am too. It is customary to marry the "opposite" clan to keep our bloodlines separate. So my wife must be from the Eagle clan, or she is adopted into the Eagle clan if she is not Tlingit.
When a death occurs in the Tlingit family, it is tradition for the opposite clan to come forward with support. Various forms of support include comforting the family with speeches. Also, help in planning and supporting ceremonies for the deceased are provided by the opposite clan. Present-day practice commonly sees the opposite clan giving money to the family experiencing the loss to help pay funeral, burial and other costs.

Some families call on the caretakers of their respective clan houses (Coho House pictured) to have the body lie in state for 24 hours prior to the funeral. The Naa Kahidi House (Community House) in Sitka is sometimes used to host a traditional ceremony prior to the body being transported to the clan house. It is also used for the funeral itself particularly when a non-denominational ceremony is desired.
A Forty Day party has been held more frequently in recent decades in memorial of the deceased. It is arguable this was not a long-time Tlingit custom, but one brought by the Russian Orthodox Tlingit. There are opposing opinions of its origins because some non-Orthodox communities hold the party. In Sitka, it is a common ceremony.
A party usually lasts only a few(2-3) hours and consists of the favorite foods of the deceased put on by his/her family for the opposite clan. Speeches are given starting with the hosts, then the guests follow. Sometimes humor is used but only in good taste to cheer up the host family. The Forty Day party symbolizes the departure of the spirit from the material world. At times families will leave a plate of food for the deceased on the eve of the fortieth day.
The Koo.eex takes place usually a year after the death, but may be held up to several years (or not at all) after depending on a number of factors. It may also be called a potlatch or payoff party, and is one form of Koo.eex. The ceremony is meant as repayment to the opposite clan for their support at the time of the death. Today, this party lasts about 20-24 hours. In traditional days it could go on for several days.
Invitations are sent to the opposite clan to attend this large memorial. The Koo.eex takes place in the fall after the hosts have had time to hunt, fish, pick berries, and do other harvesting in preparation for the party. It also gives the family time to save money to give to the guests as part of repayment.
There are four main transitions in a memorial of this type (I cannot cover them in great detail in this blog but will go in depth on my main site at which time I will add a link from here). The following information is taken from Nora Marks Dauenhauer and Richard Dauenhuaer and their
excellent book Haa Tuwunaagu Yis, for Healing Our Spirit.
Preliminary Activities - Typically, at the start of the party, the guests arrive over a span of a couple hours. At this time, money is discreetly given to the hosts to help them pay the opposite clan back and much socializing takes place during this time. The walls are lined with the gifts to be distributed during the party. Reserved seating is given to honored guests and the hall is arranged to optimize the space necessary for speeches, dancing and passing of gifts. The host family is usually positioned in front either sitting or standing. Their at.oow (Tlingit regalia) is removed from chests and arranged on tables at the front of the hall. In Sitka, the ANB Hall most often hosts the party.
The Cry - Once underway, the hosts start with speeches and four mourning songs. The guests then respond with a ceremony to remove the grief of the hosts. Then, the floor is returned to the hosts at which time there are speeches to the guests thanking them for their support. A complex sequence takes place involving at.oow. I must skim by this portion to save the risk of dishonoring the ceremony. As I said, it is best covered in much more detail on my main website.
Food, Gifts, Songs and Dances - These are all very important to Tlingit culture. During this ceremony, two meals are usually served to the guests. The evolution of the ceremony over the years seems to indicate the first meal will be non-native foods while the second consists soley of traditional foods.
Much food is passed to the guests including "fire dishes." Originally, "fire dishes" meant the burning of food to feed the spirits. Now it is a collection of foods that fit in a bowl for the guest to take with them. In addition, jars of salmon, deer meat, berries, fruits, sodas, candy, crafts and clothing are typically passed to the guests.
Money - Toward the end of the party, after all the money is counted, it is handed out according to who helped the most during the hosts time of grieving. Before it is passed, announcements are made to give credit to those who gave money to help the hosts "payoff" the opposite clan. In my experience, this proves to be a very touchy situation for both sides as managing money often is.
The Koo.eex is the last step in memorial of a deceased Tlingit. This article cannot cover the many complex aspects of the memorial. The way in which a death is handled can vary greatly from family to family.
It is difficult to portray death in the Tlingit family in a broad manner. Until now, I didn't even introduce the topic of cremation. Cremations took place in the not-so-distant past and were part of the opposite clan's responsibility. This is another topic I'd like to explore more deeply, again, on my website where it can be better organized.
Lastly, Tlingit belief includes reincarnation. When someone passes, they are reborn into the same clan. When Tlingit children are given their name, it is the name of a deceased member and that child becomes that person. For instance, a second cousin of mine was recently born and given the same name as my grandmother. Now, our customs say, she is my grandmother.
There are many complex aspects of death among Tlingits. Though we are saddened by the number of recent deaths in our families, we can take comfort the deceased will be honored the way they have always been honored and they will return to us in our newborn children.